Your Enemies

Always forgive your enemies – nothing annoys them so much. – Oscar Wilde

Do you have enemies? Perhaps enemy is a strong word. People who dislike you or are jealous of you, or people of whom you are jealous. People you would like to see trip and fall or would like the same of you. People with whom you have a negative relationship.

It’s hard to go through life without being annoyed by someone. That’s the bigger portion of this. The part where someone is annoyed by you – that’s too bad. That’s their emotion, their problem. Unless they make it your problem, then you have to do something about it. But, you don’t need everyone to like you. Really. That may seem to be a crazy notion, not wanting everyone to like you, but it is true. You don’t have to take it to its extreme of “screw everyone else”, but you don’t have to be a doormat. Doormats are, unfortunately, the only type of people some people like. And you deserve better than that.

The most important person to have like you is yourself. The most important person to have as a friend instead of your enemy is yourself. Sounds like New Age Clap-Trap ™ to some of you, I’m sure. But it’s true. You can be your own worst enemy and your own best friend. You can support and encourage yourself or sabotage your every effort. You have to figure out which you’re doing at what times. Because you’re probably doing both – maybe even at the same time.

Figure out how you are sabotaging or discouraging yourself and figure out a way to stop it. That means taking a look at yourself and your behavior, a mirror that some people don’t want to see. But, if you’re going to have the best of all possible Futures for yourself, you’re going to need to get out of your own way. You’ll have to do this unpleasant piece of business in order to get the very best for yourself.

Be your own friend. Support and encourage yourself. Do all those things for yourself as you would do for your best friend. You deserve no less.